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developmental reqs for authoring

developmental reqs for authoring

There are a lot of people in the world. Those people have a million different cultures, mindsets, frames of reference, perspectives, complexities, and awarenesses. Creating the essence [https://www.bakejam.com/intentional-society-feels-like/] of intentional society [https://www.bakejam.com/attributes-of-intentional-society/] requires certain capabilities and capacities in the set of first

intentional society feels like

intentional society feels like

It's the feeling you get when you dare to open yourself up and share vulnerably with someone else. They listen to you, they see you, they get you, and they reflect back what they understand and what relevant things awaken in them because of it. You learn more

i am not bad

"I am bad." I named it and felt into it last night with friends - the presupposition that had suffused my worldview for over three decades of my life inside American Evangelicalism. I felt the heaviness of it, like an oppressive blanket. The way it connected to the

attributes of intentional society

attributes of intentional society

This and yesterday [https://www.bakejam.com/the-church-of-intentional-society/] are both incomplete, unset, and the reference is a codename only. I'm just trying to grow towards enough of a call to call the real community of authors. Here are some "what" lists that try to capture some

the church of intentional society

the church of intentional society

My vision of an intentional society, who is it for? Someone remarked to me last week that parts sound like a church, which brought to my mind some of the roles and practices developed over thousands of years by religions and knowledge-transfer-reliant institutions. Let's sense into that flavor

reflection on current goals

reflection on current goals

This is for me. You're welcome to ride along. I have four current goal areas, all through a frame of being-ness in "my relationship to": 1. biggest self 2. nourishing relationships 3. better society 4. healthy family I see these daily inside Complice [https://complice.co/

my first media appearance

my first media appearance

For the sake of posterity, I feel compelled to liberate this picture from the confines of LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/posts/rick-erickson-001_james-baker-and-i-interned-together-in-99-activity-6693281444250423296-RKgj/] and document what I haven't forgotten already. I'm not at all certain that my name hadn't been printed in The

awareness of the awareness process

awareness of the awareness process

I've written a few times about my "filters" - having my guard up and processing my feelings and thoughts through a layer of mental perspective-taking before speaking. When the filters are there but letting most things straight through, it feels like roleplaying myself [https://www.bakejam.

parenting with acceptance

parenting with acceptance

These are my recent thoughts on moving away from shame-based parenting instruction. I'm in the process of wandering away from the language of judgement - objective(ly framed social) judgement and my personal judgement of them. Feelings are just feelings, they just are what they are, and there&

sensemaking trumpcovid

sensemaking trumpcovid

It's almost 24 hours since the October surprise of the screenwriters of 2020 - Trump finally catches the virus. Six months ago I would have said "of course he's going to get it with that attitude", but up until recently I'd been

missing momentum

missing momentum

Looking back on about three months of working for myself, I've been more aware and more intentional about what my desires are each day. I've become a fairly good estimator, too, about which and how many tasks are going to fit into each day - down

emotions are thoughts

emotions are thoughts

I don't quite know why this thought seems novel to me today, but: Emotions are the thoughts of another brain. This is sort of inherent in the triune brain [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triune_brain] model, which like all models is partly wrong but I think true

looking at my next step

looking at my next step

I have a current priority in my Complice [https://complice.co/] goals of "do enough interviews [https://www.bakejam.com/may-i-ask-you/] to learn something" by about now. This is my check-in point, so, have I learned something? Well, first I have learned some interesting things in the dozen

going to school from home

going to school from home

I want to pop up and say "Hi" to keep the lights on here. This has been the first week with full school days for us, and it's definitely a process of getting used to new responsibilities and rhythms. 8:30 AM to almost 3 PM,

thoughts and feelings

thoughts and feelings

In which direction do our "feelings" and "thoughts" go? Yes, as it turns out "both" is the somewhat-inevitable answer, but I still thought this was interesting to puzzle through this morning. (An aside on defining those words: "feeling vs thought" can over-simplistically

writing and awareness

writing and awareness

This is me writing just to keep the writing and thinking flowing. I find I miss it now, if I go more than a couple days without thinking-out-loud in this space. I've heard journalers with a "daily pages" label for their practice, and I think that

seeing my physical sight

I am typing this using speech-to-text. The reason I'm doing so is mostly as a hypothetical exercise - What if I weren't able to use my sight as I'm accustomed to? I'm going in for a minor surgery tomorrow but this story

considering the developmental bridge of the culture war

considering the developmental bridge of the culture war

<meta: heady sensemaking with not a lot of consideration for intelligibility, sorry> I recently read Developing ethical, social, and cognitive competence [https://vividness.live/2015/10/12/developing-ethical-social-and-cognitive-competence/] by David Chapman, particularly the "The communal-to-systematic transition has become more difficult" section, and am thinking that this

not my circus

Did some full-(school)-day parenting the last couple days - SPS teacher/staff training has begun and we're one week out from remote school itself. It's fun for a couple days, I said, in the sense that I didn't bother trying to "

poignant hope

The world is a mess, isn't it. Painful and beautiful, it's so fractally complex, so intertwined and tangled, so big, and so filtered through such limited awarenesses as we are. We are bundles of sensation puppeted by self-deceiving egos designed by the ancient deaths of our

word dump

Literally. Just dumping out language bits, phrases and sentences that have popped up in conversation that seem useful: * anti-tribe tribe * connecting across a different dimension * belong to each other * rewarding and nourishing time * unvillanize * unifying scope of emotional language * bridging, belonging, and building (personal development) * mind, heart, and will * digital

and now, procrastination

and now, procrastination

I've been procrastinating a bit on my first official newsletter. I think it's the "writing for a new/particular audience" thing - I find myself wondering how much the average person knows about me, guessing what they're interested in, how much detail

specificity and size

The tightness or strength of a "belonging" seems to be strongly correlated to the specificity of the definition of the in-group - does that sound right? People do consider themselves parts of broad groups such as "men" or "women" or "Catholic" or

reaching out beyond my bubble

Today I'm feeling more aware of grounding and connection of real interaction. After talking about meetings yesterday [https://www.bakejam.com/how-to-feel-about-missing-a-meeting/], I missed a meeting myself just a few hours later! 🤣 I was glad that I didn't have to worry in the way that I

how to feel about missing a meeting

I sent several "hey, so you missed our meeting, what next" emails this morning, catching up on my TODOs. (If you were one of them, please don't worry.) So I was just thinking about emotions and our attitudes and behaviors towards them, specifically in the context